How do You Handle Bullies?

Bullies can cause pain. How do you handle them? I have met a number of bullies throughout my life.

It started when I entered school. I was small for my age and young for my grade. Only after I was grown, raising children of my own, did I learn that my mother wanted to wait a year to send me to kindergarten.  The school system bullied her though, and pressured my parents into enrolling me before I was ready. When I entered kindergarten, I was only four, with a horrible pixie hair cut that made me look like a boy. Self-consciousness took a firm grip on me as I waited one agonizing month after another for my poor shorn hair to grow out.

For most of my grade school years, I was the second shortest child in my class of thirty-some students. I looked a bit like a pirate with my eye patch, the doctor-prescribed antidote for my lazy eye. This caused my self-consciousness to grow. With tall children and taller teachers towering over me, I felt unusually shy, an easy target for verbal intimidation.

Scolding a young girl before an entire classroom full of children builds shame, not bravery in her. But that’s the way they did things back in the 1960’s. Prayer was not allowed in public schools anymore, and the teachers were not seeking God – at least not that I could see. Some teachers were real bullies. Their verbal digs hurt worse than any punch to the nose would have. The old saying that “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is a complete and total lie.

The truth is, words can hurt, and deeply too. However, if children can learn how to free themselves from the sting of those words and find a way to heal from them, then they will be in a much better place from which to stand up to the bullies in their lives. And if children can understand the real reason bullies bully, which is fear, and can learn to do the opposite, which is to walk in faith, then they can learn how to defeat (and possibly even befriend) the bullies in their lives.


Author: wingandprayer

The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me; because the LORD hath anointed me to preach good tidings to the meek; he hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound... To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness... Isaiah 61:1-3 This the work of Jesus Christ in which I have been invited to participate, and in which I have been involved for the past twenty-three years. As Jesus said in John 14:12, "Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believes on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father."

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